When you stop changing, it’s time to ask yourself: Why? Is it because you’re afraid, unsure, or anxious? When we go about our day, and get lost in the shuffle of our daily events, it’s sometimes difficult to make time to reflect on who we are.
As I write this, the United States has just passed 18,000,000 cases of the coronavirus. Christmas is only days away and public health experts are urging people not to see relatives for the holidays. My family and I are locked down in our house. My kids are attending school virtually, and my wife and I are working remotely. Our days are filled with routines that are repeated day after day.
At no other time in my life, have I had such an opportunity to reflect on change in such a profound way. How I work, where I work, who I work with, has all changed due to the virus. Life is so different for me now than what it was back in late February 2020. With the change that I’m living through, I have needed time to focus on how I’m feeling during the isolation that we’re all enduring.
There are days where I feel that I’ve been on autopilot, as many of us are trying to get through this challenging time. When you’re working on your own recovery path, taking time to review how you’re feeling is critical. Change is tied to growth and healing.
When we are afraid, anxious, and worried, we might want to stop changing. But change is good.
Sometimes we might not feel that way, but change is critical to our growth and the healing process.
Take time today to embrace change and to accept that you might be afraid of it. That’s normal.
Unfortunately, you might have negative memories tied to change because of your family upbringing. Give yourself the space to feel and accept your concerns. Trying to repress your feelings is only going to slow down your growing.